Elliot Rodger, Misogyny, Entitlement, and Why #YesAllWomen Matters

TRIGGER WARNING for this entire story. Everything about it is misogyny, rape culture, rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, entitlement, murder, and more. Please be wary read through this.

As most of you know by now, on Friday, May 23, Elliot Rodger stabbed three men in his home, shot two women outside a sorority house, then shot a fourth man at deli, before apparently shooting himself, in Isla Vista, California.

One only need to read through his manifesto, watch his videos, and read his social media posts to get his fully-spelled-out motivation: misogyny.

Pure. Unadulterated. Misogyny.

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The Customer is Always… Wrong: Tales from Wednesday Overnights at Burger King

So I’m an Assistant Manager at a 24-hour Burger King. This means that on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays, I work the overnight shift (8 or 10 pm – 6 am). And no, despite what some might think, this can’t be described as the “graveyard shift” because, in fact, it gets pretty busy… especially around 1:30am, because the bars literally right across the street close at 2am.

This is already bad enough because dealing with drunk people after midnight is a nightmare. But my friends on Facebook discovered something… Wednesday overnights are the absolute worst. Why, I do not know. I don’t understand what it is about Wednesday nights/Thursday mornings, but the people who come through are absolutely, completely, and utterly terrible. Rude, ignorant, entitled, drunk, and annoying, they are, without a doubt, the worst customers of my entire week.

Featured below are some choice examples that are clearest in my memory from Wednesdays only, including a few from my most recent one. I won’t be putting these in any kind of order. They are from different Wednesdays, and I can remember approximate times but not specific dates (except for the very last one). So don’t assume there’s a chronology to this. Other than being Wednesday overnights, and putting the one that brought on the panic attack last, there is no chronological order here.

And finally… some of these may seem like I was set off by nothing. But you need to keep the context explained above in mind. I could write volumes on Wednesday overnights alone at this Burger King, featuring literally every customer that comes through. I’m only pulling out what I recall as the clearest in my memory. Also remember that I have very serious and very severe anxiety. My “calm” state is most people’s anxiety-attack state. So my stress levels balance on a knife-edge as it is, and tip way too easily. So these are things to keep in mind. In all of these cases, I’m already overly stressed. These are, for the most part, the straws that broke the camel’s back.

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Pro-Choice vs Pro-Life

The woman has the right to choose 100% of the time. Always. And that’s it.

There is nothing to argue. Women’s rights are never.. and I mean NEVER… up for debate.

Get over it.

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On “Incel” (Shy Boys: IRL)

Incel.

There are a lot of guys out there for who this term, which is short for “involuntarily celibate”, is a nightmare situation.

I’ve already elucidated on this in the past, but it does describe me.

Yet I shy away… no… run away at the speed of light while shooting atomic bombs back at… this term and the stuff associated with it.

Why?

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Tellin’ mother nature ‘bout you and me…

So I wanted to introduce everyone to my all-time favorite song. I don’t even know why it’s my all-time favorite song. What I do know is this:
a) It’s written by my all-time favorite band, Led Zeppelin.
b) It’s about a dog (Strider, the dog Robert Plant had at the time).
c) It’s my all-time favorite song.

I listen to it every morning when I wake up. It’s my ringtone. I know the lyrics by heart. I made myself a collection of every recorded instance of the song live. I have the studio outtakes and sessions on the electric instrumental version of the song. The studio outtakes/sessions, especially from Bron-Yr-Aur Cottage, of the acoustic version (which is the officially released version), are my Led Zeppelin collection holy grail.

Needless to say, I’m a bit obsessed with this song.

And I know you’re a Led Zeppelin fan if you already know what song I’m talking about.

And just which song am I talking about?

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Jewish Antitheist

So a little while back, I finished watching this incredible discussion between Miri Mogilevsky and Chana Messinger about being Jewish Atheists. I am so angry with myself for missing this discussion when it was live. It’s a brilliant discussion and has prompted me to write this piece about why I still proudly call myself Jewish, and all that means, including my honest hatred of religion. It’s a tough task, but a lot of fun, as well. This will be interesting.

Note: Originally, when I wrote this post, it included a whole section about Israel… how I feel about the country, including my very strong emotional connection to it, as well as my own opinion on the politics of Israel and the crisis in the Middle East. I have decided to remove that entire section of this post and not discuss Israel at all.

Why?

Confusion. I grew up inside an entirely pro-Israel bubble. But recently, for the very first time in my life, I’ve actually been hearing and listening to the other side of the issue, and as of now I simply don’t have coherent-enough thoughts to broach the subject. I am avoiding it deliberately here and I must ask that any commenters do so, as well. I am not comfortable engaging with that topic (Israel and Palestine) at this time.

Thank you.

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I Hate Politics

Yeah, I know.

For the people who know me, this is utterly impossible to believe.

I mean, have you seen my Facebook feed? I’m clearly an outspoken, political person. I have so much to say about politics all the time. So much so, in fact, that it’s become second nature. If I catch even a whiff of what seems like a potential political debate, I will jump in head first and often scare everyone else away in my zeal.

Yet I absolutely, utterly, and completely abhor politics.

Politics is disgusting and dirty. Thinking about it is depressing and is surely no help for my already really bad anxiety issues. It’s probably really unhealthy for me to be political. I can actually totally understand why so many people, especially younger people, just don’t care. I completely understand the apathy so many people have surrounding politics, because the reality is, it’s just exhausting.

So then you’re probably wondering why I’m political. And it’s a completely fair question. If I hate politics as much as I do, why am I so outspoken about my politics?

And do you want to know the horrible answer?

Because I have no choice.

And you want to know something even more horrible?

Neither do you.

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